let me tell you something

The biggest mistake you can make in a relationship is to get too comfortable.  Yes, everyone always say true love is when you’re comfortable with the other person and can be yourself but that’s bullshit.  You can’t truly be yourself, not like how you are when you’re single or when you’re by yourself.  If you want it to work you have to keep making effort to make the other person happy, you have to keep trying to impress them.  Moving in together is the first step to making that mistake.  You think it’s going to be so sweet that you can spend all this time together but reality is you will get totally bored of each other, you will get so used to each other so quickly that the excitement and the nervousness just disappears.  You’ll be like an old married couple, and not the cute kind you see walking hand-in-hand at the park.  You’re going to bicker everyday about the stupidest little things.  Your “dates” become nothing but going out to eat or getting food, and you don’t even talk during dinner because you have absolutely nothing to talk about.  Guys tend to think that just because they have you and you’ve been with them for years it means they can stop doing cute little things or stop being romantic.  They stop being affectionate and stop showing how much they adore you, unless you get dolled up and go hang out with your friends because then they think that you’re going to meet and fall for someone else or when you receive texts from guy friends, obviously they know that they haven’t been giving you what you need.  Yeah you love each other, but if you want to stay together you have to be IN LOVE.  If you don’t feel that way then it’s not a relationship, what you will have is just a companionship or friendship with no intimacy or passion.  For a relationship to work you need to have all those things.

Sorry to go all preachy and stuff but I’m just really frustrated with my own relationship right now.  Why is it so hard to get that same feeling you did when you first started dating?  When everything I did made his heart skip a beat and every kiss I gave made his stomach flutter.  Now I feel like he’s thinking “oh okay is that it? nothing new”.  What the hell’s a girl suppose to do to feel appreciated????